Motherhood is not easy and sometimes you can feel a certain anxiety that causes you discomfort, you can even feel bad about yourself or the world around you. It is likely that you have some fears and that without realizing the focuses on your children and that, it also generates anxiety. Fear that something will happen to them, fear that they will fail, fear that they will have a bad time …
What happens is that even if you are a mother, you cannot control everything (even if you want to). If you try to get everything under control, then you will feel anxiety … You may have an anxiety disorder. But even if you suffer from this disorder, for the most part you will be able to manage it and more if you have been prescribed medication, or if you perform meditation or breathing exercises.
Your reactions may not always be normal or healthy… So you may worry that you are putting your anxiety on your children without realizing it. You think that they are the culprits of your anxiety, you may even think that if you back down you would not have children to be calm. Although you are not mistaken, your children are not the culprits of your anxiety … Anxiety is born in your mind and only from your mind can it be solved. It is normal for you to also worry about whether or not they may develop anxiety due to your behavior.
You should know that this does not have to be this way, you can overcome this anxiety, do you want to know how? Anxiety has its roots in genetics and the environment. Although the genetic part cannot be controlled, there is a greater propensity for anxiety that must be expressed in the offspring just like any other condition … You can prevent your children from generating anxiety and also continue to suffer from it.
Let your children have experiences
All parents worry about their children, but having anxiety disorder means that sometimes those worries go to an irrational level. Allowing your children to have age-appropriate experiences will help them develop their own coping mechanisms. Evaluate activities depending on appropriate development. For example, is it appropriate for a 3-year-old to play alone? You should think about how to make that game safe and comfortable for the little one but controlling your tendencies of fear and panic.
Don’t be a catastrophist
Catastrophizing is common in anxiety. Anxiety takes advantage of the imagination and makes it turn negative. You might tell your child that he can’t cross the street just because he might get hit by a car and die… But maybe this is too extreme, right? It may be better to explain that you have to wait for the traffic light to turn green for pedestrians and if it is more than 10 years old, allow it to do so even with your supervision.
Practice healthy reactions
Before children can understand your words, they already pick up your emotional clues. If your child accidentally picks up a knife that you have left within reach, do not blame him for that and also, it is important to react without panic. Instead of running off screaming and freaking out, move quickly to pick up the knife, put it away properly, and instruct him that a knife is not a toy or a plaything. With this reasonable and healthy reaction you will feel calmer in moments of this type.